Dignity and Respect


I believe that we are all connected. Treat others with dignity and respect. Well, that’s what I try to do. It’s hard sometimes when you are dealing with people who do not treat you with dignity and respect.

For most, your job is your identity. It’s not the dollars that give you value, but the pride you take in your work, the skills and knowledge that you have cultivated over the years, and the satisfaction you feel when you provide a service that contributes to the success of your employer or boss.

Sometimes I think of it as a test, a test of my character. Will I rise above or will I sink to the level of the person who is doing everything they can to demean or intimidate me. Will I cower and allow someone else to reduce my self-esteem. And it is hard, hard not to place some sense of value of myself by the opinions of others or whether someone likes me or not.

Stay strong. Have faith. Always remember that you are unique and important in the larger scheme of things. Try to have patience and understanding for those who are unkind to you. You may not be aware of what they may be going through in their own personal life at the moment, they won’t tell you. Or, for some, just the power of their position can make them cocky and full of self-importance.

Life runs in cycles. It has its ups and downs, great successes and great losses in health, relationships, career, etc. No one is immune when it comes to trials and everyone has the ability to achieve great success.

Listen to and appreciate the people who matter to you and move on from those who don’t. Wish them well, but do not permit them into your psyche to wreak havoc on your mental attitude, chip away at the greatness that is within you, or tear you down. In a job, you just don’t know what you are getting into.

In these times, it is not necessarily that easy to just find another job, but continue to seek out other opportunities. It might take some time and you deserve good things and good people in your life who encourage you, uplift you, help you navigate, and who genuinely appreciate and care about you.

With gratitude and appreciation,


  1. Tammy

    I agree. As a 25+ year admin professional, I took an opportunity with a non-profit organization. Hindsight being 20/20, I should have listened to my head, not my heart when I accepted the position. The CEO was just plain ugly! She had no respect for anyone within the organization (not even her husband who was the Chief Development Officer!). I finally had to leave to regain some of my self respect, self-esteem, (and time). I will admit that I did it very abruptly (after I saw an e-mail where she wanted to talk to others to discuss changing my job description for the third time in five months!). I have worked in two companies since then (I took my current position because my position was going away) and it has been so wonderful to work with people who respect you and treat you like a human being.

    1. Layne

      @Tammy, Thank you for sharing your experience. I know I say this all the time, but I really do LOVE what I do. However, I have worked under management that has made me feel inadequate, leaving me with the feeling of despair and dread to go to the office each day.

      We all have our strengths and weaknesses and no claim to perfection. I truly believe it is a manager’s responsibility to tap into and cultivate those strengths, while assisting in minimizing the weaknesses or providing alternatives or learning opportunities in understanding and improving upon that weakness.

      Also, how fabulous that you have found your little niche in the world where you feel your contributions, knowledge, and skills are appreciated and encouraged.



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